Hey, How'd That Happen?: LJ Idol, Week 9

[dogriver]

You know those things people say to you all the time when you're down,
those "encouraging" sayings, "wise" proverbs, and assorted garbage that
just makes you shake your head and say, "Yeah, right, you really don't
understand but I'll shut up just to keep the peace?" Well doesn't it
just take the biscuit when these gems happen to actually be right and
you have to eat your disdain?

Here's a classic. I always loved this one. "Oh stop looking for a woman,
Bruce, and when you least expect it, it'll just happen." Yeah, sure.
Whatever. Maybe in a movie, maybe in a book, maybe to someone else, but
to me? No, not a chance.

So there I was, last August, resigning myself to remaining single for
life. I mean, it only made sense, right? I'd botched every previous
attempt, so it was only fitting that I detect a pattern, resign myself,
and enjoy that life of eternal singleness which happily-married people
were always trying to tell me wasn't really so bad. Well, if it wasn't
so bad, why did they get married, and why were they so happy, right?

But it was finally starting to happen! I was enjoying my singleness, I
was reveling in it. I wasn't hoping, I wasn't looking. Translation:
phase one of that annoying proverb had been achieved. Do I hear phase
two, anyone?

On August 5, I began talking to kittytech, henceforth
refered to as Caroline (for that is her name, you see). Oh this is
great, I thought, and even said as much to my roommate, here's a girl
whom I absolutely love talking to, and there's nothing between us and no
pressure. We're pals, nothing more, and isn't that just wonderful?

That ignorant bliss lasted for about a week. Pretty much exactly a
week, really. Because by August 12, I knew I was in love. I hadn't
wanted it, I hadn't asked for it ... I'd asked for the opposite ... But
it's what I got. And, totally unexpectedly, she felt the same way I did.
And, wonderfully, we still do.

The unexpected can bring terrible pain, and it can bring unspeakable
joy. In this case, I'm so glad to say, the unexpected has brought me
unspeakable joy.

Comments

[kittytech.livejournal.com]

You're right. I do like this entry. Somehow I always like to hear about myself. GRIN!!!!!

[masterofmusings.livejournal.com]

Don't we all? GRIN

[lordrexfear.livejournal.com]

This can't take but an awwwwwwwwwww...

I've personally not resigned myself to anything, BUT I am just laying back and letting life hit me as it comes. :)

What else can one do?

[arinoch.livejournal.com]

I love this mentality. Mostly because it's been mine for as long as I can remember.

[theafaye.livejournal.com]

It's so true though - stop looking and you'll find what you seek!

[jenandbronze.livejournal.com]

I am the same, well just let life take over, and see what comes to me. I am single, and not really into guys -- yet LOL.

Great entry.

[masterofmusings.livejournal.com]

No, didn't even require ketchup! That's saying something. GRIN

[rosepurr.livejournal.com]

Very sweet!

[thenodrin.livejournal.com]

The thing is, if you stop looking in an effort to find, you are still sort of looking, so the cosmic mojo that makes the proverb work won't kick in.

So, maybe it only worked for you because you really, honestly, did give up the chase.

Theno

[roina-arwen.livejournal.com]

It's also true that you always find what you're looking for in the last place that you look... because of course, once you find it, you stop looking! Congrats!

[elderwoodpixie.livejournal.com]

Aww! You two are too sweet! I'm glad you found each other just when you were meant to. *wink*

[kajel.livejournal.com]

I would say that eating the disdain on this gem wasn't too hard on you! Great entry.

[dabhug.livejournal.com]

:o)

[scienter.livejournal.com]

Very sweet story! I enjoyed this a lot.

[boxsofrain.livejournal.com]

What a sweet entry! I love hearing about people falling in love.

[shadowwolf13]

Heh, I found all three of my Loves when I wasn't looking for anything. :)

Great post.

[baxaphobia.livejournal.com]

Having been there from the beginning, there isn't much more I can say! hahahahhaha

[lilmissmagic71.livejournal.com]

Very nicely done... your joy comes through... great job!

[solstice-singer.livejournal.com]

Very, very nice. A nice way to start this thread of unpreparedness.

[alycewilson.livejournal.com]

I wish my single friends would believe me when I tell them that, if they just relax and stop trying so hard, they'll find someone. Good for you!

[libra-dragon.livejournal.com]

awwww
Great entry and warms the heart:)

[walkertxkitty.livejournal.com]

Nicely written! Sometimes the things we want stay out of reach simply because we're looking too hard. I'm glad it worked out for you.

[shaze.livejournal.com]

Very nice story! Isn't unexpected love great? :)

[brightflashes.livejournal.com]

What a sweet story! Very good entry!

[kf4vkp.livejournal.com]

I think it's because when guys are trying they end up trying too hard.

I liked your entry.

[winterberries.livejournal.com]

:) This is sweet. I enjoyed it -- love the last two paragraphs especially. Thanks.

[agirlnamedluna.livejournal.com]

I got the story back then from the other side, isn't it wonderful =D

[abbismom.livejournal.com]

Congratulations!!!!! I love stories on how people in love get together.

[petrona.livejournal.com]

Awww, I love this entry! Best wishes to you both.

[connie]

Very sweet. :-)

[darkprism.livejournal.com]

*laughs*

I broke up with my college boyfriend in October of 2003. I was actually planning on going to Italy to study for two years for grad school, resigned to just be single for a while. I wasn't looking, didn't want a relationship. I was exhausted from the one I'd just had.

And then...my good friend Ben calls and wants to do dinner. And then we did a movie. And then fast forward a year and half and I'm standing at an alter.

It always happens when you least expect it. So happy to hear it happened to you, too. *grin*

Nice entry!

~*~

[edith-jones.livejournal.com]

I found a relationship that turned into what will soon be 12 years of married happiness when I was absolutely NOT looking for a relationship, especially with a man named John as the jerk I had dated last had also been named John. By the time we had finished our first conversation I knew I wanted to marry him, this man unfortunately also named John. I've never had such certainty about anything in my entire life. It makes me really happy to hear that it happened for you, too, and it was great hearing your love story and your joy. Thanks for sharing it.

[thndrstd.livejournal.com]

Nice entry.